I recently watched an episode of The Conversation where Amanda de Cadanet said (I’m paraphrasing) “Parenting brings me the most challenges in my life. Some days I think – I’m not very good at this.” Some days?! For me it’s more like every day. Don’t get me wrong, I have little shining moments, tiny snatches of time where I think “Check me out, I don’t suck right now!”, but every day, at least once a day, I think “Hot damn, this is hard. I don’t think I’m doing this right.”
My littlest babe has just turned thirteen weeks old. She is a darling. She smiles and my heart melts. She coos and I’m smitten. But newborns bring challenges and this one is no exception to that hard and fast rule. Today, as we took a drive out into the countryside, and she finally slept I got to thinking about the lessons a newborn teaches. This is my second and I’m reminded of things that my eldest taught me when she was the same age. There is something about the rhythm of life with a young baby that forces you to adapt your perspective. Your rushed, worrying, adult perspective! They force you to slow down and sit down (feeding time!), and see things a little differently. Especially, the fact that life is oh-so fleeting. It’s a cliche but babies can look different after a day, they grow so fast. Six months in my life can whiz by with few changes, six months in their lives can have them sitting, eating solids and babbling. It’s pretty remarkable.
So, for all the hard things about having a brand new little one (no time for myself, night wake-ups, spit up on everything, constant nappy changes, toddler sister throwing almighty jealous tantrums, memory loss, hair loss…) I’m trying to appreciate these important lessons that come from this precious time…
Live in the moment. This too shall pass. We are so very lucky to have this girl, our health and our family. Let your eyes light up when you see the ones you love. You can’t plan everything. Surrender. Stop and notice. Love. Love, love, love. X